Thursday, January 23, 2014

3 months with 3 kids

So it's been three months now - three months with three kids. First, I'll post a little about Ethan, then I'll write a little bit about what it has been like around here.

ETHAN
First, a little bit about my 3-month old Ethan. Ethan is super smiley and fun to be around from 8am - 7pm. He loves his brothers and watches them like a hawk as they run and play. He loves to smile, and he is super chunky (12 lbs, 6 oz at 2 1/2 months). He nurses every three hours for about 15 minutes in all. He likes to see what's going on, and he is discovering his voice. I love baby cooing. Adorable.
But any time the sun is down, he's our little Gremlin. I picked up a prescription for acid reflux tonight for him. It is supposed to take at least three days before we'll notice any change, if at all. I certainly have my fingers crossed.
Ethan still sleeps exclusively in his car seat or a swing. After the Zantac starts working, we are supposed to start experimenting with back-sleeping. In the past, he's choked and spit up every time he's been on his back. Maybe he'll sleep in his crib some day!
The last two nights he has gone to bed at 8pm, so I am hoping that's a new routine. On the other hand, it's been more than a week since he has slept peacefully. He woke up four times last night alone: 10, 11, 2:30 and 4:30. At ten and eleven, I waited about 15 minutes into his shrieking, and then I went in and held him and rocked him. At 2:30 I listened to his shrieking for almost an hour, and then sent Ryan to hold and rock him. At 4:30 I nursed him, but he was barely hungry and just nibbled for 3 minutes per side and went back to sleep. FRUSTRATING!
Before this past week, he actually went six days IN A ROW of sleeping 9:30-6:30. It was wonderful but short-lived. Now I can't get him to sleep more than a few hours without shrieking! The doctor and I have a few ideas: colic, gas, teething, acid reflux. We already medicate for gas (simethicone with each feeding), and in three days he'll be fully medicated for acid reflux. Colic, unfortunately, just sucks. When Ryan and I really get at wits end, we give him Tylenol hoping its teeth. Who knows. Here's to some rest for him... and his momma.

Ethan doesn't take a pacifier. Two weeks ago he also stared protesting a bottle. We're on our fourth brand of pacifier and our second type of bottle. It is super frustrating when he gags and/or kicks it back out with his tongue. When he gets tired or fussy, I just have to let him scream/cry. There's no way to "plug him."

THE REST OF US

As for me, I'm tired almost always. I lose my temper, especially with Brennan. The hardest part for me about having this baby is that we have a schedule that he has to adhere to. When Collin and Brennan were each born, we could cancel everything (story time, playgroup, lunch bunch) until I felt like going and like I had things under control. If I needed to go to the store, I just had to get there at some point on a given day. Now with Collin and Brennan being in school, we have to be certain places at certain times each day. It is stressful to have Ethan always nursed, napped and happy. Very often he is screaming in the preschool hallways. The schedule is definitely more hectic this time around.

As far as Ryan, he's ready to have his wife back. I have now been MIA for a full year. I got hives at the end of January 2013, followed by horrible morning sickness, then terrible pregnancy exhaustion, and now newborn exhaustion currently. Do you blame him for being frustrated?

Of course, I'm ready to be me again too. I am trying like heck to lose this baby weight. So far, I'm down 25 pounds since delivery, but these last 15 pounds haven't budged in a month. I'm tired of being hungry all the time, and it is really hard to work in 30 minutes on the elliptical each day. I am only successful about 4 days per week. I am also tired of being tired, but I'm also tired of napping my life away. Unfortunately, a tired and hungry mom doesn't equate to a very patient, loving mom.

Collin and Brennan are super great brothers. They don't want to hold the baby or anything like that, but they will make silly faces and talk to him to cheer him up. They like to introduce him to people, and they are kind and gentle with him. Brennan loves to kiss the top of his head and pet him. Collin is always willingly to rock his car seat carrier if he's screaming in public. They are good little helpers, and I really mean that.

AND THAT'S A WRAP

How's that for a run-down? We are doing pretty well. I have had a TON of help from neighbors and friends. I also have had Ryan and his parents around a good bit of time too. Having lived here almost six years has really come in handy. We love the people we have come to be surrounded by here in Peoria. We are constantly impressed by the Christ-like service from members and non-members alike. The Midwest is definitely where it's at.

Monday, January 13, 2014

Happy Birthday, B!

Our little Brennan turned three today!
 
Brennan picked going to the Caterpillar Visitor's Center for his birthday activity, so we started the day by opening a present with construction worker clothes. Each big boy got a hard hat and work vest.
Here's Collin modeling the get-up. Brennan adamantly refused to put anything on.
When we arrived, we managed to coax one photo out of B wearing his hard hat.
They both got right to work. Here's Collin. He looked super adorable in his costume.
 Lots of other visitors commented on how prepared he was for his day of work.
 
Nana and Papa were able to be here to celebrate with Brennan. (B's birthday is one of the reasons we did Ethan's blessing yesterday.)

Each time Brennan wanted a fruit snack, we made him get dressed for a photo. One fruit snack...
 Another fruit snack...
and this photo cost us two fruit snacks because he put on his hat AND his vest.
 Of course, there's no way he'd give us a smile for any number of snacks!
When they were done being workers, we headed to lunch. B picked going to Wendy's. After nuggets and fries, he got his very own Frosty, which thrilled him.

Before naps, he got to open his present from Nana & Papa. It is one of those pillow pets (a monkey) with the starry-night lights on top. He LOVES it.

After naps, we enjoyed the cake he picked out himself.
Side Story: Last Sunday I got stuck going to church on a snow-covered hill. A pickup truck had to tow us up the hill. Ever since then, the big boys have been playing various games with towing: laundry baskets and bungee cords, excavator booms and dump trucks, etc. Brenn picked this cake because Elmo is being towed by Big Bird, just like Mom.
His final gift of the day was a Caterpillar cement truck. It drives by itself forward and in reverse, spins and talks. They have a real one at the visitor's center, and he loves it.
 
Now a little bit about Brennan on his third birthday...
Mr. Duck
Brennan is very confident. For example, first thing in the morning his overnight diaper is very full. Some mornings he removes his jammie pants and waddles around the house. His super-full diaper swings back and forth as he stands tall and saunters across the floor. He definitely knows who runs his show!

Mr. Copy-Cat
Everything Collin wants, Brennan wants. Everything Collin does, Brennan does... except for in matters of cleaning and pottying, unfortunately. I think it's probably just part of looking up to his big brother, and I figure he'll outgrow it at some point, but he really has very little personal creativity when it comes to playing. He just follows Collin's lead a lot. He has no idea what to do when he wakes up from his nap before Coll gets home from school. It'll be interesting to see how C's full-day kindergarten in the fall affects his personality. I am excited to see who he really is.
 
Mr. Coordinated
Brennan may be our athlete. He is runs, kicks, throws, climbs, catches and jumps quite well. I hope to get him into soccer this coming spring/summer. He loves to move and be active.
 
Sweat doesn't seem to bother him at all, especially if he gets a popsicle out of it. He doesn't seem to be a fan of cold though. He hasn't played in the snow at all this winter. He just stays inside with Mom.

Mr. Performer
Brennan loves to get others to laugh. He loves to be silly. He loves to "tell jokes." Every joke is a "knock-knock joke," but most start with a question. He also likes to dance and sing. His singing is often just humming. He also likes to play musical instruments.

Last week Collin had a friend over to play one morning. It was cleaning day, so I had out a sensory box for them to play with full of rice and stars, bells, beads, cups and spoons. I expected a minor mess. I was cleaning in the bathroom when Collin called, "B is dumping rice on the floor!" I finished the toilet scrubbing, and when I rounded the corner to come out to the kitchen, Brennan was taking scoop after scoop out of the tub and dumping it on the floor! He was really enjoying being naughty in front of company. Sigh.
Mr. Stubborn
Brenn doesn't do anything he doesn't want to do. He decided one day he didn't like milk, and he hasn't had a sip since. He does not help with chores around the house, unless he's threatened with time-out. He will not practice his letters, and he will not work with me on anything (like singing his ABCs). When we go to the library, he picks a big stack of books, but when he get home, he wants us to read the same book over and over again... until I return it to the library and he latches onto another. Everything has to be his own idea. If it makes Mom happy, he wants nothing to do with it. Ahh!
 
Mr. Social

B loves preschool, which he attends on Monday mornings at friends' homes. He seems to be much better behaved on the days he goes to school. We think he thrives on being surrounded with people and new activities. I plan to enroll him in a preschool program next year that meets three mornings per week. I hope he (and I!) will be much happier. I have received many compliments on his cute conversations from the leaders in nursery and from the other preschool moms. He seems to be a wonderful little guy; he just likes to keep that part of himself hidden from me.

Mr. Mischievous
Brennan chooses to be naughty a lot. When I ask him why he did something bad, he answers with a perfected the shoulder shrug. Either he hasn't yet figured out how choices lead to consequences, or my consequences aren't nearly severe enough. He loves to annoy Collin, which isn't hard to do, by not obeying "the rules" of whatever pretend play they are doing.

Love you, B-B! Happy birthday!

Now that you know a bit about Brennan's interesting (and dare I say, difficult) personality, does anyone have a book recommendation for me? I feel like I need to read something to better understand him, but I have no idea where to start. I love him so much, but days can be really hard when everything is a fight. He and I are so different. I think Brennan will be my child who teaches me the most, so I better get started learning.

Sunday, January 12, 2014

Ethan's Blessing

What a fun weekend! We blessed Ethan in church today. We had the pleasure of playing host to lots of family...

Uncle Jared & his friend Charlotte drove from Ohio on Friday evening.

Uncle Rob flew in from Arlington, Va late on Friday night.

Uncle Ron & Aunt Kristie and three of their kids (the ones not on missions right now) drove in from Iowa City too.

Nana & Papa came from Washington on Saturday afternoon.

Our neighbor Laura, our Peoria Grandma, was able to come too. Unfortunately, Jake (our Peoria Grandpa) had to work.
 
We had a wonderful time and already miss all the noise and laughter. Thank you for coming! We love you!

And not to be forgotten, we still definitely felt the absence of Grandpa & Grandma Morello (away serving a mission). We love you too!

Here are some nuclear family photos.
 
 

And one last photo, just to give you a good laugh.